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As for women, your distinctive mark of maturity is how you can pull your emotions from the wrong guy without saying childish things like 'I know he's not good for me but I can't stop loving him.' Emotions are like fire: good servants but a terrible master. You must tame your own emotions enough to pull them out when circumstances dictate.
Proposing love to a lady is easy. It's how you behave when she says no that defines you as either a king or a kid, a sound man or a scoundrel. What counts is if you can accept the rejection with grace and respect her choice without abusing her or retaliating. Disappointments are a guarantee in dating, what increases your chances of settling sooner is how fast you can absorb a disappointment and keep on moving.
Some people are scared of fixing their problems because they have to confront themselves as the cause. Some fled personal development and avoided building self reliance to jump into marriages at insanely young age then they come up 5 or 10 years later narrating the ordeals they have put up with, assuming you're a fan of real life horror movies. Others condoned serial flirting or outright cheating from the word go and they have the audacity to play victims years later, pretending they were forgiving and trying to make things work while they know too well they were trying to domesticate a wild animal. Others waste all their prime years in a very lopsided relationship with a person who is clearly unavailable or perpetually lying to them. The real thing that holds them there is their own fear of doing the hard work of searching and they half-dream that a miracle can happen with this unavailable person to make them the right person. They go on dreaming because if they woke up they would hate what they have to deal with. Sometimes don't even try to rouse such people especially if you suspect that they enjoy their dreamworld more than the real world.
Begin to protect your internal atmosphere because your soul lives there. Stop getting into arguments that leave your soul agitated and hurting. Learn ways of communicating your dissenting opinions without raising your voice. When you notice that people are not listening do not shout or force them to hear you. Seek other ways to get your message across like using written means or mediators, or disengage from the person altogether. I hope you're learning as you grow older that the first wealth is a calm internal climate and that everything else you accomplish in life can only be done in a climate of internal peace. In this regard anything that makes your soul sick and heavy is effectively sucking the life out of you. Your soul only shines in silence. Safeguard it.
Begin to protect your internal atmosphere because your soul lives there. Stop getting into arguments that leave your soul agitated and hurting. Learn ways of communicating your dissenting opinions without raising your voice. When you notice that people are not listening do not shout or force them to hear you. Seek other ways to get your message across like using written means or mediators, or disengage from the person altogether. I hope you're learning as you grow older that the first wealth is a calm internal climate and that everything else you accomplish in life can only be done in a climate of internal peace. In this regard anything that makes your soul sick and heavy is effectively sucking the life out of you. Your soul only shines in silence. Safeguard it.
How many times did you forgive or condone people just because you were afraid of losing them, overlooking offenses to keep them in your life only to realise later that every time you did that you chipped away at your own dignity and slowly eroded your self respect and your identity? Before long you find that you no longer have your psychological defenses and personal boundaries. You cannot recall who you are and your whole life looks blurry and your future bleak. Compromise complicates your life slowly until you lose your identity. Never be so afraid of losing a person more than you're afraid of losing yourself in an attempt to keep them. #palscity fans
If a man is insisting on you getting him a child before he marries you in most cases it's because you're already having sex with him. So you've already shown you can compromise and so you're easy to push around and manipulate. If from the onset you make it clear you're keeping sex for marriage it will be very hard for someone to pester you about a child when you don't even entertain premarital sex.
Why men ask for this anyway? If he says it's for confirming your fertility, it means you're being married for reproduction, not companionship. You're not very different from his cows. And we all know even with cows the bull could be the problem. But many just want to mess up your life by walking out on you afterwards, or to establish a pattern of domination and control.
RUKANDA KAYEGA
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Hennessy Ajang
You are a good artist 🎨
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Rodgers Odongo
Beautiful 💖💖💖💖💖
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