Inter tribal marriages requires sobriety and wisdom... primarily Marriages begins from Friendship ,Dating and finally the stay...This duration allows for learning, understanding and matching...In my land And community by extension, dowry payment is a matter of choice and might...Well it's a background rule that every man to pay dowry to the lady...but no commands nor price tags put to it...The Kikuyu culture , Kisii and part of Luhya is demoralizing....the context of dowry in luo land is "appreciation"...in this three commuties I have visited it comes out more of a "payments '...you have to settle the Buying price and other stipulated allowences to settle their demands...